I’ve been wanting to write about the above topic for a while, and I suppose I have touched on it in recent blogs, too, but I wanted to dive a little deeper into it today, as I have had some experiences and gained some understanding around this that I would like to share, hoping that it might be helpful for others, too…
There’s a lot of talk about the need to balance your masculine and feminine energies on the twin flame/ascension journey, and that’s all well and good, but what does this actually entail in practical terms? For the longest time I had trouble understanding this. Especially when someone would talk about having balanced their inner masculine and feminine and reached inner union. I mean, I got the difference between the two energies, but I wasn’t really able to discern the two energies within me in an alchemical sense, nor able to quite understand how they played out in my external life. How could I know if I was expressing one or the other, or perhaps more importantly, how could I know if they were balanced…?
Before I go on, I’d like to backtrack a little, and just give a general overview of the difference between the two energies. The concept really stems from that of polarity or duality, and calling something masculine and feminine is really only one way of expressing this. You could call it yin and yang, dark and light, spiritual and physical, etc. In general terms, though, the masculine energy is characterized by presence, logic, action-taking, structure and providing safety and stability. It is focused on decision-making, goal-setting and is outward-reaching. The feminine energy on the other hand, is more inward-seeking, receptive, intuitive, creative and nurturing. It is focused in being, rather than doing. It is sensual, flowing, collaborative and supportive.
The element associated with the masculine energy is fire, and with the feminine it is water. The masculine is concerned with the material world, whereas the feminine is more connected to the spiritual realm. I could keep listing characteristics for both, but I’m sure you get the gist. The goal is to balance both energies, but I don’t necessarily think that this means it should be 50/50. As a woman (and being a woman myself), I do believe it’s natural to lean more towards the feminine traits, and as a man, vice versa. But both genders have both energies within them, and they both need to be healed and balanced to some degree to reach inner union. I don’t think the work ends there, though (sorry to disappoint, as I know when we’re knee-deep in the mud, so to speak, of healing, that we want there to be an end to it all, but it does get better and actually quite amazing, in time, so hang in there). Even though inner union is a major milestone on this journey, the work still continues after that, both to be able to stay in, or keep the state of inner union, but we always continue evolving as human beings, too, in whichever direction we choose.
I’m of the belief that we are all part of a larger collective, energetically speaking. As we all have masculine and feminine energies within us, they also exist within the larger context of our society. Where we’re at with that at the moment is a result of what has come before, and I suppose it’s no secret that the masculine and the feminine has been quite imbalanced for centuries past, with the feminine being oppressed by the patriarchy (another word for the unhealthy expression of the masculine). Although this has gotten a lot better in today’s society, at least in some parts of the world, I believe we all still carry the wounds of the past, that still play out in both subtle and not so subtle ways.These wounds stem from both past life and ancestral trauma, and may be perpetuated in this current life through our family, friends and society at large until we start to address them. And that takes me back to the question above, how to heal and balance these energies within you. As we all have been both men and women in past lives, and carry the genes of both our father’s and mother’s ancestral lineage (epigenetics play a part here, which I will not go into, but please look it up if you’re not sure what I’m talking about), we all carry wounds both of the oppressor and the oppressed, meaning both our inner masculine and feminine are wounded.
Once our kundalini are awakened, it begins the process of healing these wounds, in many ways guiding us through this healing process, yet we still have to consciously work with it. And even if your kundalini isn’t fully awakened, you can still work on healing yourself, of course. It took a while before I could see my own masculine and feminine wounds, mostly through mirroring, from my twin flame and others, and start to really work to restore a healthy masculine and feminine expression in myself. This is still a work in progress, but I understood that my beginning to take on more responsibility and leadership roles at work, in large part helped to heal and balance my inner masculine. In fact, I believe my job in general, providing structure and stability and a more grounded presence in the material world, is all part of my masculine makeup.
I believe this was actually why I didn’t blog so much last year, as my focus was mostly on my job, and hence the healing of my inner masculine, something I wasn’t even fully aware of until later. This year, though, I felt, especially at the beginning of the year, that I needed to bring in more of my feminine self, which has really just become stronger as the year has progressed. To me, right now, my inner feminine is expressing itself more in my life away from work, in my spirituality and yoga practice, in nurturing myself, and in reflecting and journaling. This part of me has been mostly hidden, though, but me coming back to blogging again is changing that. I feel that this feminine part of myself is even more important to me than the masculine, yet I need the masculine part, too, of course.
Building a foundation and structure within myself through leadership at work and the confidence that has given me, has been essential for me to be able to reach my inner feminine and for her to feel safe enough to emerge. This is where I’m at now. At the beginning of the year I began to feel the need to embrace my feminine side again more fully, and little by little she has gradually been coming forth since then. My visibility wound has played a part of in this too, and the need to be able to express more of who I truly am, my authentic self, started with stepping into my masculine self and embracing those traits more fully, and now my feminine self also wants to make herself known more, and so that has become more my focus of late. Now that we’re in Taurus season this has perhaps become even more prominent, since Taurus is ruled by Venus and is a sensual and nurturing sign in many ways.
My own experiences with balancing the masculine and feminine within are but one example of how to do this, of course, but it illustrates how we can begin to alchemize these energies within us, that in time will lead to the full union within. I’m not quite there yet, although I feel it is coming closer and closer all the time, and the process to get there is also speeding up more and more. There is a lot more that I could write about the topic of masculine and feminine balance, but I’ll leave it at that for today. I’m sure I will revisit the topic again in the future.
With that I wish you all the best with healing your own inner masculine and feminine, and hope you have a beautiful day. Sending you, as always, much love and light!
Divine Love Alchemy 