My Take on Twin Flames

So I took an extra week off from writing once again, as there has been a lot happening in my world lately, both internally and externally, so needed a little more time to ground and integrate before writing, I felt. But today I’m back at my spot at the library, overlooking the harbor, and getting ready to jot down a few words. It’s a relatively sunny day here in Oslo today, but not particularly warm, though. Nevertheless, I take what I can get, and sun is better than all the rain we’ve had recently.

All that led up to me going on sick leave a few weeks back, both personal and work related reasons, triggered some deeper healing and clearing within me, and I’ve also been guided to take some steps and make some changes in my life as a result. First of all I realized that I just cannot do these long shifts anymore at work, as I have so much trouble sleeping when I do, and it affects both my ability to perform, my energy levels and my mental health, frankly. So I was able to talk to my boss and shift my schedule around, so that I won’t have to do that anymore. That’s a relief, so once I’m back after my vacation in late July, the new schedule will kick in and I hope that will help alleviate at least some of the pressure I’ve been feeling at work.

I had a session with a twin flame coach shortly after my sick leave began, too, which was very helpful, and it made me realize that it was time to step up my game in relation to my business, as well. I’ve been in doubt as to who it is that I actually want to serve with my healing and coaching work, but finally that all became clear to me, and that my focus should be on twin flames. I’ve held back a little bit around the whole subject of twin flames, both in my blogging and business, one reason being that there is a lot of bs and toxic people out there spouting things about twin flames that often encourage obsessive behavior and thinking, and I suppose I didn’t want to be associated with that. Also, I’m not in union and was reluctant to share information about my twin without his permission, which is something that still stands, of course, but I can certainly still share my own thoughts and experiences from my point of view.

Mostly I’ve just felt blocked in that area until now, but since the coaching session I’ve had some inspiration and creative flow opening up, and so I’ve updated my website and even my business name where this new focus is presented more clearly. I guess I also just came to the conclusion that I am a genuine twin flame, and as I’m healing more and more I don’t feel the need to hide who I am anymore, or at least certain aspects, and that is a very important part of me and my journey in recent years. This means that I will probably talk more about twin flames in my blog posts going forward. Although I’m not in union, I still have been on this journey for 7+ years now, and I have healed and cleared a lot of past traumas and conditioning, so I hope I still have a little something of value to offer, especially to those who are just starting out or at the beginning of their journey.

So now that I’ve established that, I suppose it’s time to get back to the topic of this post, my take on twin flames. Since I just mentioned what I did above, it’s obvious that I feel (know) it to be a genuine concept, although I also believe that many people out there on the internet talking about the subject aren’t necessarily twin flames themselves (even so-called twin flame coaches who profess to be in union), and for that reason there is a lot of misinformation going around. So perhaps just starting out with that term in general, “twin flame”, I both like it and don’t like it, for various reasons. I actually like the term “flame”, as I do feel that the connection can certainly feel “on fire” from time to time, and the process of clearing away old trauma can also feel a bit like walking through fire.

Now the word twin I have mixed feelings about, as I feel that it implies (and this I think is a bigger issue that may hold many genuine twin flames back from stepping into their power), that there is only one other person who can be your twin, but I have found that to be erroneous. I have personally experienced more than one person to be my twin flame (3 in fact, so far, but only one at a time, though), and I have come to understand that the twin flame connection is an energy that can shift from one person to the next, if there is no more growth to be had with the current “twin flame”. That also means that I don’t buy into the idea that twin flames are one soul in two bodies, but two distinct and separate entities (for lack of a better term), that obviously have a deep and intense connection, but that’s all. Of course there are many mysteries around this connection that I’m yet to experience and understand fully, but based on my experiences so far, that’s what I believe.

That doesn’t mean that this isn’t a beautiful and intense connection, though, and a mission in many ways, too, but I find that this underscores the fact that you shouldn’t get too attached to the person who you feel to be your twin flame at the moment, as that may not be the person you end up with, but you may still end up with your “twin flame”. An oxymoron, perhaps, and this journey is filled with contradictions at times, but it really opens your mind up to multidimensional thinking, and that there isn’t just on truth, is, I suppose, part of the goal of this journey. You probably won’t be seeing a lot of posts from me about signs as to whether someone is your twin flame or not. Frankly, nobody else can tell you whether someone is your twin flame or not, that is something that you just feel (know) deep in your soul. Granted we can of course still feel in doubt at times, when we get tested and triggered on this journey, but whenever I read one of those articles about signs, I invariable find something that doesn’t apply to my specific situation, as each individual twin flame journey is unique.

Now there are of course certain things that do generally apply across the board, such as the spiritual awakening, triggering and trauma healing and reaching inner (and outer) union and mission. And that is something I will talk more about in upcoming posts, but for now, I think I will leave it at that, as this post is getting pretty long already. But I hope to be back with more in a couple of weeks, so until then, I wish you a beautiful day, and I hope I may have given you a little something to think about in today’s post.

I wish you well on your journey, and as always, send you much love & light!